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Feeling Anxious About an Upcoming Social Event? Here Are 4 Easy Tips That Can Help
Useful suggestions for remaining poised in an anxiety-provoking social situation include:
1. Practice ahead of time in front of a mirror--take a deep breath, relax your shoulders and "rehearse" your entrance, perhaps even how you'll respond when first introduced, all the while staying conscious of speaking clearly without rushing your words, relaxing any tense muscles in your face, and keeping your overall posture comfortably at ease.
2. Decide to go with whatever adrenaline becomes triggered by your body. Don't associate discomfort with negative emotions--instead, feel it, get used to it and take advantage of it, rather than trying to cover it up or fight it. Give yourself permission to let the adrenaline rush enhance your gestures and offer a unique expression to your presence.
3. Dress comfortably--wear something that's a favorite of yours, something that makes you feel like "you"!
3. Focus on speaking to just one person at a time. Don't feel you must fill in any pauses or silences in the conversation or that everything you say has to be brilliant, original, or eloquent. Listen attentively, without worrying what you should say next and try hard not to be concerned about what you imagine the other person is thinking about you. Remember to take a deep breath every now and then, relax any tense muscles, and, most importantly, enjoy yourself!
Social phobia differs from ordinary shyness. Those who struggle with social phobia experience pronounced symptoms of anxiety--for instance, before speaking in a group their heart races, they get very short of breath, they feel hot and sweaty, and they're convinced they'll say or do something that will reveal their flaws and inadequacies. Social phobia is very common and very treatable. If left untreated, every area of their life can become progressively affected. Therapists are especially skilled at helping individuals work through symptoms that obstruct genuine and comfortable confidence in social situations.
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